給我親愛朋友
Friendship Therapy
張老師文化
作者
Kass P. Dotterweich
John O. Perry
繪者
R.W. Alley
譯者
林鶯
1. 朋友接受你的本來目。你在朋友的眼中是什麼樣子，在上帝眼中就是什麼樣子
A friend accepts you just as ;you are. Who you are in your friend's eyes gives you a glimpse of who you are in God's eyes.
accept
朋友的可畏在於街煞，不必矯揉造作，不必偽裝，我就是我
2. 耕耘友誼：以尊重為土壤，施以真理的妝照、同理的潤澤，友誼之術就醉欣欣向榮、高聳入雲，結滿愛的果實。
Cultivate your friendship. In the soil of respect, drenched with th light of truth and the moisture of compassion, life will burst forth as a towering tree, abundant with the fruit of love.
cultivate
友誼需要用心去再陪，小小的巧思會增添無限風味。
3. 讓你的友誼可大可小，可高可矮，可方可圓，可以繁複華麗，也可以平淡樸實。賦予友誼各種想像得出的尺寸、形狀與色調。
Let your freiendship be large or small, tall or short, square or roud, paisley or plain. Friendships come in every size and shape and shade imaginable.
imaginablel
不必情有獨鍾，讓各式各樣的友誼花朵進駐你的心園。
4.讓友誼成為悠遊之州，領你逍遙於海上。有時海浪一波一波襲來，有時強風住滿傳煩，有時風平浪靜，一望無際，有時星星在夜空中引路，你們是共同掌舵的夥伴。友誼之舟帶你航向夢想之外的遙遠海岸。
Allow your friendship the graceful freedom of a ship at sea. When the waves dash against you, when the strong winds fill your sails, when the calm allows clear sailing, when the stars quide you by night, you are partners at the helm. Your friendship can take you to distant and undreamed-of shores.
partners 在人生的大海裡，我們需要同舟共濟的夥伴，你搖槳，我撐篙，欸乃一聲過小橋。
5. 要成為一個好的朋友，你得先看中自己。先寶貝自己的珍貴本質，才能將別人的珍貴本質收藏於心。
To be a good friend, value yourself. To treasure another's essence in your heart, you musst first treasure the precious essence that is you.
self 善待自己才能善待朋友，疼惜自我也疼惜朋友。
6.你不需要發誓成為一名永遠的朋友，用事實來證明。歡迎、接納彼此的厚誼，用這份奇蹟散發出來的光與熱溫暖自己。
You don't need to vow to be a friend forever, just be. Say yes to the gift you are to each other and war yourselves in the glow of that miracle.
mirale
友誼可以點石成金，好東西就是要和好朋友分享。
7.為朋友付出，務求回報。最令人心樂的付出是不期待、也不在乎結果的。
Give to your friend without expecting something in return. The most gratifying giving comes without expectation of concern for out come.
giving
付出就是收穫
撒下小小的種子，你就會擁有一座花園
8.與朋友消磨時光：甜蜜的時光--散步、嬉戲、禱告; 不怎麼甜蜜的時光--爭執、傷害、揣測。友誼悅納人生全部的光譜。
Spend time with your friend: sweet time - walking, playing, praying, not-so-sweet time - disagreeing, hurting, searching. Friendship embraces the whole spectrum of life itself.
sweet time - 訂個約會，朋友該見見面，好好玩一場了。
9.開開心心的傾聽彼此的笑聲，你們的內心都會漲滿喜悅。
Listen gleefully to each other's laughter, your hearts will know abundant joy.
gleeful
朋友會令你破涕而笑，走出心情的幽谷
10. 溫柔的傾聽彼此的啜泣，你們的香菱因此懂得了人生的豐美。
Listen gently to each other's sobs, your hearts will know abundant life.
Sob
朋友是我們的淚桶，一滴一滴的淚珠都會被珍重收藏
11.朋友一敗塗地時，祝福她;自己一敗塗地時，也讓朋友來祝福你。這是上帝的旨意。
Bless your friend's brokenness; let your friend bless yours. This is what God does.
brokenness
患難見真情，災危相扶持; 只要有朋友，一定會東山再起。
12. 接納你的朋友，不要審判你的朋友，這並不表示你們不會互相詰難，而是要努力去了解彼此的真實面貌。
Accept your friend without being judgmental. It's not that you don't challenge each other, it's just that you strive to know each other's reality.
reality
穿透表層，直指本心，友誼才不會如沙上城堡，琁起琁滅
13. 在你感覺虛弱或需要幫助時，去找朋友吧！表面上你似乎枚什麼可以給予的，其實這時你或許擁有更多，可以貢獻給這段友誼。
Turn to your friend when you're feeling weak or in need of help. You may have more to offer the relationship when it seems you have little to give.
offer
不要忘記常常替友誼添加柴火，火燒得越旺，才能驅走人心的冷漠。
14. 歡喜承擔朋友的軟弱及急難，朋友的軟弱是為了換出你的力量。
Let your friend be weak or in need, a friend's weakness is a gift that calls out to your strength.
weakness
人都有弱點，互相包容海涵。求全只會讓你孤單落寞。
15. 對朋友要真誠。真理與愛是一對好朋友，缺少了對方，彼此都會遜色許多。
Be gruthful with your friend. Truth and love are themselves friends, one without the other makes each less.
truthful
客套只會拉遠彼此的距離，不要害怕對朋友說出你心裡的話。
16. 在朋友面前要謙虛。如果你自以為知道所有答案，你就不是對方需要的朋友。
Be humble with your friend. You cannot be who your friend needs if you think you have all the answers.
humble
不要對朋友頤指氣使，如果你目空一切，身邊也會空蕩蕩的。
17.允許朋友來寵愛你。你只能ㄋ付出你已經得到的。當你的朋友帶著愛來扣你的心門時，鋪上歡迎的腳墊，你的自我渴望被愛。
Allow yourself to be loved by your friend. You can give only what you have received. When your friend knocks on the door of your heart with love, put out the welocme mat of your longing-to-be-loved self.
loved
大方的接受才能大方的付出，懂得被愛才懂得愛人
18.在友誼之中敞開心胸，尋找你尚未發現的真實自我。從朋友的眼中來看自己，你會發現一個換然一新、令人振奮的『你』
Be open to finding new aspects of your trueself in your friendship. When you see yourself in the eyes of a friend, you discover "you" as a fresh and exciting creation.
fresh
每一位朋友都可以提供一種新眼光，讓你召見自己。不要錯過喔。
19. 不要和朋友競爭，遊戲很好，但是不要競爭。友誼是沒有目標的，然而獲勝或打敗都是一種目標。
Do not compete with your friend. play, but do not compete. Friendship does not have a goal - and "winning" or "beating" is a goal.
play
乒乒乓乓，來一場友誼賽，開心就好，勝負忘了吧！
20. 不要為了逃避批評，而去諂媚你的朋友。還有另一種方法－－肯定自己，同時表露出建設性且充滿愛意的關懷。
Don't falsely flatter your friend because you're trying to avoid being critical. There's another way, being affirming while expressing constructive, loving concern.
concern
關心朋友就不要用甜言蜜語來蒙蔽他, 真誠的建言才能撫慰他的心。
21.不要害怕友誼中自然產生的憤怒。憤怒也是你的朋友，提醒你事情出錯了。以開放、坦誠的態度來回應憤怒。
Don't fear the anger that is a natural part of friendship. Anger itself can be a friend telling you that something is wrong. Respond with opennes and honesty.
anger
憤怒不會侵蝕友誼，壓抑怒氣才是友誼的頭號大敵。
22.如果朋友傷害了你，友誼還是可以維繫下去的。不要試著隱藏你的傷痛，說出來，彼此談一談。享受和解的興奮與快樂。
When your friend hurts you, your friendship can survive. Don't try to hide your pain. Talk it over. And enjoy the delightful effervescence of reconciliation.
reconciliation
冤家宜解不宜結，相逢一笑泯恩仇。
23.與朋友共度良辰-- 大清早的早餐約會，日落的散步，深夜的晤談。當靈魂擺脫了日常的煩憂，你們就可以靜享兩人之間肅穆的聯繫。
Share a special time with your friend -- an early morning breakfast, a walk at sunset, a late-night conversation. When your souls are free from the day's concerns, you can savor the quiet bond between you.
bond
談天說地、比手畫腳，心有靈犀一點通
24.碰觸你的朋友。朋友之間尊重與安慰的碰觸是神聖的，結合了肉體與靈魂，但急迫或苛求的碰觸則令人不快。
Touch your friend. When it is respectful and reassuring, not needy and demanding, touch between friends is sacred, connecting body and soul.
touch 拍拍肩、握握手，用肢體的接觸傳達心靈的相知相惜。
25.優雅的接受朋友的離去。告別是新的開始，以及嶄新的體驗。等到你們再度聚首，可以給對方的就更多了。
farewell
有分別才有再見的喜悅ㄡ瀟灑的揮揮手，約定再聚首的日子。
26.品味朋友不在身邊的時光ㄡ如果分離的時光似乎威脅了你們的友誼，檢視你真正的擔憂是什麼，想想看你該如何排憂解悶。
Appreciate the time you spend away from your friend. If time apart seems to threaten your friendship, examine what your real concerns are and how you can deal with them.
friendship
紙短情長，魚雁往返，友誼在一封封的信中跳躍著。
27.如果發生不愉快的事情影響餓友誼，你的朋友可能是遇到了困難。誠實的說出你的不舒服，讓朋友有機會反省自己內心的匱乏。
When overtures of friendship are made in ways that make you uncomfortable, your friend is probably needy. Give your friend a chance to explore that neediness by being honest about your discomfort.
explore
朋友陪以一道去探險，探險外在的天地，也探險內在的世界。
28. 該說『不』時，就要向朋友說『不』，而且也要心平氣和的接受朋友對你說『不』。友誼足夠深廣，可以包容「不」、「好」、「或許」、以及「我不知道」。
Say "no" to your friend when "no" is appropriate, and gracefully accept your friend's "no". Friendship is wide enough and deep enough to allow "no", "yes", "maye", and "I don't know".
no
對不起，朋友也不能視事順你的意，個人有個人的天地。
29.尊重朋友和你之間的界線。你無需表白內心的一切，要懂得什麼可以大聲嚷嚷，什麼必須安靜的放在心裡。
Respect your own boundaries as well as your friend's. Not everything inside you needs exposing. Know what is yours to share and what is yours to hold quietly within.
boundary
友誼就像打球一樣，越界就會背叛出局。
30. 站在朋友的間上，視野會更開闊，如果是ㄏㄢ朋友背靠背而立，恐懼就不翼而飛，肩並肩站著，負擔會減輕，而當你們一起抬頭向上望時，蔚藍壯闊的穹蒼令人屏息讚歎。
When you stand on the shoulders of a friend, more is visible. When you stand back to back, there is less to fear. When you stand shoulder to shoulder, the load is lighter. And when you gazze upward together, the grandeur of the sky is breathtaking.
together
學習噗噗態的智慧，兩個人在一起讓人安心多了
31. 歡迎友誼展現的魔法與意外驚喜。當兩個人分享他們最深層的自我時，世界上最奇妙的事發生了。
Welcome magic and serendipity in your friendship. The most wonderful things can happen when two persons share their deepest selves.
magic
友誼將一根魔法棒，讓世界成為狄斯耐樂園
32. 讓友誼的光輝灑向你們，如同光線穿透稜鏡。你們合力創造出一道彩虹，屬於你們自己的彩虹。
Let the radiance of your friendship pour through each of you like light through a prism. Together you create a rainbow that the world would not otherwise know.
rainbow 迎著風、迎著雨，友誼是保證風雨過後終將天晴的彩虹。
33. 和朋友一起禱告，頌揚上帝。友誼中最深邃的體驗，是分享你們與聖靈的相會。
Pray with your friend and speak of God together. The most profound experience in friendship is the share your encounters with Mystery.
pray
友誼是上帝的賜福，一同禱告感謝上蒼吧！
34.為你們友誼的誕生訂定週年紀念日。你們可以在一起回憶、歡笑、哭泣，同時夢想未來。
remeber
回憶能夠替友誼調味加料，比比看誰的記憶好！
35. 以感恩的心情歡度你們的友誼，將票高高抬起，在上帝的祝福中手舞足蹈。
Celebrate your friendship with gratitude.
Lift your friend in thanksgiving and rejoice in God's blessing.
celebrate
為友誼三呼萬歲：萬歲、萬歲、萬萬歲！
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